In this unit, I’m supposed to consider what a very difficult dilemma would be for me, and how I would handle it.
I’m going to start by talking about what wouldn’t necessarily phase me, and why. There are a few things I’ve faced in acting as a parent figure to my niece, and certainly as a listening ear to my friends and family, that have parallels in the types of scenarios I’d deal with as a practitioner.
Here’s where I *don’t* have a problem:
– Having someone say ‘can you help me fix so-and-so’s life or decisions’
This is easy for me to say ‘NO’. I don’t believe in others trying to control and manipulate the choices of others. Even if it’s their child of any age, unless the kid’s a toddler, it’s up to them to learn their own lessons in life and we have no way of knowing what is best for that person. That person is in charge, not us. It’s so easy and so egotistical to think ‘if so and so would just do this or that, all their problems would be solved. why don’t they listen to me?” Wrong.
– ‘My friend is in trouble and I need you to help them’
This is simliar to the above, but with better intention. This is why I’m uncomfortable at times with my Christian friends who say ‘pray for my so and so who’s in the hospital’. Well, does that person want that? I usually take that to mean ‘I’m so worried about my friend and this is how I need to comfort myself and I hate this helpless feeling so I’m running around asking for people to pray for that person.’ Again, what I usually do is comfort the person asking and then let it go.
– ‘I need you to help me win my boyfriend / husband / significant other back or away from someone else’
NOPE. Again, my life is not build on ‘manipulations r us’. Free will is there for a reason. However, if this person said ‘I need help coping with this situation’, I could approach it with helping the friend manage his or her OWN feelings or behavior, based on dialoging and journeying on that persons’ behalf.
– I also wouldn’t have a problem with journeying on behalf of a client for one issue, but receiving information about something else. I would share only on the topic.
I have a different take on suffering, death, seership and other life experiences. I believe in letting people grow and learn on their own time and in their own way. Each one of them have their own wisdom and timing, and I’m merely a conduit, a catalyst. It’s not up to me to go poking around and presuming.
So, what WOULD bother me?
If the message came from the Spirits. If the power animal I was working with and journeying with on behalf of the client said ‘this is a problem’. Then I face a dilemma. Do I reveal it? I am a conduit, and it’s not my job to interpret; it’s my job to report on the information I receive and let the client run it through their wisdom filter and their own life experiences. So – what is the line between just being a conduit and saying ‘I saw this over here on an unrelated topic?’
The second thing that I would have an enormously difficult time with, is if I viewed the person I was trying to help as somehow being controlling or bullying towards someone else, or they hit an emotional trigger of mine. At that point, if I felt angry or judgmental towards someone, I’d literally have to step back and say ‘I can’t help you’.